I personally like the vail look but its your wedding you althought you dont want to disappoint your mom, it is still YOUR wedding and if you feel that you dont want to wear one, then dont wear one. You dont want to look at your pictures later and say "I wish I wouldnt have worn that stupid vail."

Many brides dont wear them and its ok. Everyone will know youre a bride (they cant miss the nice white wedding dress) LOL