That's a stinky situation, but you're so right, you've got to go w/ the one who you've been closest to the longest. I have a friend who I know is going to be mad that she's the last one in line of my bridesmaids, but she and I just aren't as close as we were 10 years ago in high school, and I now have some closer friends who I feel a stronger connection with, and they'll be in the middle, with my 2 sisters next to me. It's my day and that's how I want it!

A little advice about the shower situation-- SEND INVITATIONS! I'm from a small town and my future aunts-in-law and some of my mom's friends threw my shower, but they didn't send out invites, they just put a notice in the paper. I think a lot more people would've known about it if they'd have sent out invites, but by the time I found out about it, the date was too close. I even had cute ones picked out from the website theFrontDoor.com http://www.thefrontdoor.com/engine.c...RP&COM_CDE=156