I'm in almost the same situation. I'm just recently engaged, but I'm getting kinda fidgetty (spelling?) to know how much if anything at all my FHs parents are going to contribute. He doesn't talk to them too often so he hasn't got around to sitting down with them yet and asking. But that's what I would suggest, having your FH sit down wit heach parent, seperatly of course, and politely asking if they're going contribute anything. It makes it very difficult for us brides to plan anything without knowing the exact budget we have to work with.