It's your wedding, not their's. I don't know where family members get off telling someone what they can and can't have. Drives me bananas lol. Do what you want girl! As far as the cupcake thing, I've never been to a wedding that has one but I've seen pictures and they are really cute. I was actually considering it too, but I have a specific design I want and it wouldn't work with cupcakes. But I would imagine it's easier ~ guests can just go on up and grab one, rather than having to cut the whole thing and place on plates or napkins. Seems a bit less dramatic, right? It's you and you FHs day, have what you want and don't let ANYONE tell you otherwise.