I think it depends on how much time you have. Two seperat dances seem to me would take up so much time. Especially if you do dollar dance, and new hubby dances with his mom. and your first dance with hubby. I had a friend that had the same situation as you, and she found that they felt like they spent half of the night dancing...and the guests got restless..and bored to say the least. You need to do what you think is best... goodluck!