I understand the freak out as well, I'm getting married 5/25. The floalytes are very nice I'm using them in my centerpieces as well as candles. I love the effect. Are you using fire bowls for the bonfires? That might be a little safer and you can always use them in the yard later and some of them have a grate like cover.Maybe a good flash on the camera will insure good lighting for the pictures. GOOD LUCK and congrats!!