When I married the first time, I was 22 living at home and my mother and 2 sisters were heavily involved.

My 2nd wedding at age 41 was a bit different. My mother had passed away. My two sisters, my MOH and I picked out the patterns and material for the dresses. My sisters daughters were in the wedding, so we all got together one weekend and made them all. Other than that....My hubby and I did everything.

I tend to think the older you are...the less social the planning is. I don't think the lack of enthusiasm is intential, but as you get older friends tend to think you might be offended with too many suggestions. Ask a friend to go with you for an honest opinon...you might find they would be happy to.