This is an interesting situation! And by interesting, I mean it must be extremely difficult to try to figure out a way for this to work out while keeping both of you happy! It seems to me you had the right idea with getting married--just not in a church, since that is not in keeping with either of your religious views. Maybe an outside wedding? It just seems like it's nto a big deal to you either way--you just want to be with him--then, maybe he should get his way. It is his first wedding, after all. Maybe you guys could find somewhere outside that has been meaningful to you guys--you could even try to find an officiant that has no religious affiliations to marry you there. Anyways, best of luck!