thank you all so much for your encouragement and advice. I am a bit more calm now...that usually happens after a good freak out.
I am not worried about the lights, candles, pics, anymore...
and i am super excited about the colored water in the globes on the tables. LOVE LOVE LOVE the way they look.
Next big thing is invitations...i can't believe i let them slide this long but a decision will be made this week

oh...and i almost forgot...kinda freaked out that i never once worried about my dress b/c i know exactly which one i want from david's bridal...online only of course....and...they are sold out in my size.
i wrote them, but the only reply was keep checking back.
boo on that..but im staying hopefull