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Old 03-03-2008, 01:33 PM
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Default Re: How to get them to pay???

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Originally Posted by *tiffany* View Post
In this day and age (oh how old I feel saying that), I think a lot of old wedding traditions are are not the "norm" anymore. Society is changing and so are the views of those traditions.
I personally feel that even though something may be customary, that does not mean it's required. I in no way expect any money from anyone for our wedding. While both of our families are offering to help in their own way (like my mother doing flowers, his family giving a little cash toward the dinner), I did not - and will not - be telling them they need to contribute more. We appreciate whatever help they choose to give, but this is our wedding and will be footing most of the bill.
I agree 100%. I would never ask anyone to contribute money. But I think that it's good manners to at least offer to help in some way, shape or form if it's your child getting married. I expect to donate money and time to my son's wedding when the situation arises, and I can't imagine doing anything less for him. He's my son, and I intend to help him out.

For me, it's just frustrating seeing my fiance's parents taking trips to Hawaii 3 times a year while my parents have given up their yearly vacation to help out with the wedding. Not that it's fair to expect them to contribute as much as my parent's have, but it would be nice if they would give up just one of their trips to Hawaii to help contribute.
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