Thank you to all the ladies for responses. I made a decision (for the most part) and the guys will have sage green vests (groom in champagne to match the color accents of my dress) and we have bought the MOH dress (sage green silk dress). As for the Jr. BM, she will be wearing an age appropriate dress that my mom will be sewing out of a matching sage green fabric, and the flower girl will be wearing either the same sage, or pink (also in a dress sewn by my mom). Thank you for the sounding board. Who knew the silliest decisions could be so hard.