I'm sorry to hear about your dilelmma, that's no fun! I too had bridesmaid issues except mine were about my MIL wanting my SIL to be a bridesmaid. No wait let me rephrase that, DEMANDING she be a bridesmaid even though she and my husband don't get along at all and she's been nothing but mean to me for the six years I've known her. It was so bad I wrote a book about it. You can download it if you want a good laugh or want to read about how I dealt with the different situations. It's called "Wedding Hell" and it's available at lulu.com. Good luck with everything!