Don't worry Mandy.. I have got that type of response also before I know its irritating when you are asking for opinions.. and you get a reply like that... Just brush it off chick! Don't worry...
and I can't say I totally agree with everyone... Iam kind of on the fence with whom should be fed and who shouldn't.. but probably if ya feed one.. you should feed all. I know what you are saying though, what kind of sense does it make to take off family and friends from the guest list then add someone ya don't know (ie Photographer).. also you feel like you are paying them.. so they should feed themselves... lol.. I know what you are saying.... unfortunately we have to be "Nice Brides" though.
good luck!
Rachel