Ok May 9th sister (I'm May 9th too-- and the one initially posting about going at it alone)....

I have, my whole life, had fleeting moments of doubt and just want to say that this is a HUGE HUGE HUGE life choice. If he was unsure, there's no way he'd go through with it at all. He would walk away before it was too late and certainly would be upfront with you. Guys always run from conversation (ok maybe not all and maybe not all the time but we're much better communicators). It's important to keep the way he may see things in check. My fiance is a big time momma's boy and I was freaking over her taking control (from friggen FRANCE) but then realized how much it was crushing him that I wanted to staple his mothers mouth shut (and cut her dialing fingers off). I know it's really hard and he may say things that are hard to hear but you have to sit down with him and get it all out on the table. My fiance said something very important to me... he told me that his mom was the first woman in his life and he has to listen to her and do things that won't hurt her. We did put our foot down, she totally doesn't get it but that's her loss. It's not worth the stress. As long as you love each other and that is the focus-- forget everyone else. You're the one who gets to spend your life with him but definitely sit down with him and be upfront about your worries so he can extinguish them and you can be happy again. Mother-in-laws... ugh. I really hope you work through all your stresses because its not fair (I know...) Let me know how it goes.

Andrea