I agree that men just can't communicate... I guess sometimes you just need to show them that you understand that their Mom is the most important woman in their life and that you can never take her place. And show him that you are not trying to take her place, just talking to him might not work... show him that you appreciate some of the stuff that her mom suggests/said.

All the best to you, Good Luck!
Jessica,
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