Hi,

Thanks for your answers. Well, it has been a little tough lately...
First, the salesperson from our venue phoned me up last night asking me if we really intended to "postpone" our wedding...

I was extremely surprised, as you can imagine. And I said : of course not, invitations are sent etc...
And apparently, my FMIL phoned up the venue (I confirmed the Italian accent with the salesperson) to postpone the wedding to this summer.

I was in such a rage.

My fiance came back from work, I had time to cool a little, and just told him what I had discovered. He phoned up his mom right away.
After a VERY long conversation in Italian, my fiance finally put the phone down, and then took me to the couch and told me what all this mess was about. And you won't believe it.

My FMIL has invited to the wedding, without telling us or asking us, my fiance's ex girlfriend !!!! She's Italian and lives there.
My fiance was once with her for about 3 or 4 years, and I think he was very very much in love with her. She knows everyone in the family, actually, she was part of the family.

But the story is over long time (like 4 or 5 years). Anyway, apparently, the ex cannot make it on that date to the US... She told my FMIL, and so my FMIL phoned up the venue to postpone the ceremony !!!!!!!!

My FMIL told her son yesterday evening (from what my fiance was ok to tell me) that she has never forgotten his ex, that he must have proposed to her and not to me. That the other girl gets along with the family and speaks Italian (which I do not), and that everybody is concerned by our wedding, our future !

I'm... I do not know how I feel.

My fiance stood up and told her that he was getting married to me and that is all.

I asked him if he still had a "relation" with his ex, and he told me : yes, we sometime chat together, etc, I'm not going to hide it to you, she has counted a lot to me etc... but I'm with you now, not with her.

Now I'm feeling that if ever this girl makes a come back, my fiance is going to leave me.

Needless to say that my FMIL didn't even excuse herself for what she tried to do.

I'm so so so so so upset. I had to tell my father this morning when he phoned up just for a chat. My father told me that my in-laws were not trustful and that he's willing to speak to them.

Gosh this is a nightmare. A nightmare. And my fiance was not very reassuring last night, neither this morning....

Brit. Sad.