There are many places that are now specializing in plastic plates that look real. I can't remember the website, but do a google search on "plastic plates that look real", and you will find the sites that you can go to. I bought forks that look like real forks online.
I personally think that you should go the all disposable route because I would think it real that the soup bowls are real, but the plates are not. Now if everything was real or disposable, I probably wouldn't even think twice about it. Plus to me, disposable is cheaper and easier to clean up at the end of the night, but that is because I am on a budget.
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