I guess my mom is breaking the rules here. We are having the wedding at my mom's church, and one of the old ladies at the church always thows a shower for any weddings. There are going to be quite a few people invited to the shower that are not going to be at the wedding because my FH and I already have space issues, and this was explained before sweet but slightly crazy old lady began planning.

In an ideal world, all of the people that are going to be invited to the shower would be invited to the wedding, but space does not permit, and we wanted them to feel like they were a part of our lives. We are going to have a more substantial deal at the shower though so that those that aren't going to come to the wedding will be included more.