I agree that you should be able to have whatever stone you want on your engagement ring. I knew a girl who refused to have a diamond on her finger. She wanted to be different. I think it is a personal decision each bride must make. I also think that it is important to let your FH what type of ring you want, just so you don't get disappointed when he presents you with a ring with a stone you don't care for. I agree with benifer, I personally prefer diamonds for my engagement ring. I think they are so beautiful and symobolize so much.