I have a little bit of a similar situation, my FMIL and FSIL want to help, but everything I do or suggest, they don't like. They have something bad or negative to say about everything my FH and I want to do at our wedding. Our colors are pink, white, and black. The first words out of my FSIL's mouths were, do we really have to wear ugly pink dresses? Why can't I just wear a black dress instead. My FH told his mom and sister he wanted to wear a white tux, they both started laughing and told him how unflattering they are and that he should lose at least 60 pounds before he even tries one on. Then my FMIL was telling me about this pink shirt she bought last year for a wedding and never wore and it's been hanging in her closest for like a year. She said she'll just find a skirt to go with it and wear it to our wedding. Okay, if my only son was getting married, I think I'd pick out a new dress instead of just throw something on that been hanging in my closet for a few years. If they are this bad this early into our planning, (we've only been engaged 2 months, weddings not for another 14 months) I can only imagine what they will be like as we get closer. Oh joy!