My fiance and I just began discussing the wedding party and he kind of threw me for a loop when he told me that of the 5 people he wanted to stand up with him, three of them were women.

Now, I've for sure seen several weddings where one of the bride's or groom's party was of the opposite gender, but I've never seen more than one, and definitely never seen three.

I understand my fiance's desire to have the people he feels closest to stand up with him at the alter, and I have long ago gotten used to the fact that he has more girlfriends than guyfriends.

However, I am having trouble with the number he wants. The fact that they outnumber the guys bothers me. Even just from a logistical view. That many women up on the alter... well, it's so lopsided. (I really don't have male equivalents to help even it out). Plus I'm not super fond of figuring out how to dress them all, or how they should all process down the aisle, etc.

Pictures of the groom's party are kind of bugging me too. The idea of loads of pictures of my guy laughing and smiling with three beautiful young women on our wedding day, no matter how much I am okay with their platonic relationship... well, it makes me cringe.

And finally, I *am* concerned about what people will think. With that many women, I'm afraid it will be just "too much". I don't want it to be awkward, and I don't want to feel like I have to defend it to more conservative members of my family, etc.

Obviously, he and I need to talk about it, but I'm trying to sort out my feelings on it first. What is "appropriate" today? It's so hard to tell. Do you think I'm being overly fearful about the reaction my friends and family might have? Do you think nobody will blink but me? Or are 9 girls and 2 guys up on the alter with the bride and groom as weird as I think it is?

Any advice? Helpful words? I'd really appreciate it. Thanks.