My fiance' wants the Tungsten. If your man works with his hands, that's the best to go with because it never scratches. He also likes the fact that it sort of has a blackish hue to it. He's not a jewlery kinda guy at all, so he wants something that's not too shiny. Our rings won't match either, because I just want a simple white gold band to match my engagement ring....which is a white gold princess cut.