First of all, I too would like to tell you how sorry I am for your loss. My FSIL lost her baby around the 3 month mark too for no reason. I think Mandy had some great suggestions. I really like the idea of a harvest festival type thing. I also like the scavenger hunt idea, if you were planning on having a renewal the church, you could keep the location of the reception a secret and send your guests on a scavenger hunt to find the location of the reception. I hope this helped you a little, we are here for whatever you need.