Well said, Jen.
Yeah, it does suck for those of us who our parents aren't invloved. For me, it just hurts how they don't seem to care. All my life, my mother has pretty much put me down because I'm chubby. Telling me that guys would rather have a skinny girl with an ugly face rather than a chubby girl with a pretty face. Because of all that stuff she'd feed into my head, I got even more low self asteem than what I already had and I pretty much lost all faith that I'd ever get married. She probably thought her hurtfull words would shy me away from even dating and everything would be fine. So, here I am now in a great relationship and about to get married....and she's pretty much pissed off I guess. Oh well ~ that's all I gotta say. It hurts that she's taking this kinda attitude, when a mother is supposed to get excited with her daughter and everything. But there's nothing anyone can really do. All I know is, if I ever have a daughter, I will never put her down like my mother did to me and I will be 100% supportive of her when her big day comes (so long as she doesn't wanna get married at age 16 or something lol ). What I suggest to all of you ladies out there that your FMIL, FSIL, ect are acting as if it's their wedding and not yours.....simply stop telling them your plans for the wedding. When they ask something specific, go ahead and tell them your plans. But don't ask them their oppinion, cause you will get it lol. We all gotta learn how to speak with a firm, but of course, a kind voice. Hopefully all with get the hint "this is what it's going to be...period"