We're having a co-ed shower, it's like the engagement party we never got to have. There will be no "games" like gift bingo and what not. It's a chance for everyone to get together and mingle some before the wedding and with less stress. We are having separate bachelor / bachelorette parties. If the guys want strippers whatever I"m not that insecure or controling but I think male strippers are nasty and their will be none of that for me!