It sounds like you're not starting out like a lot of married couples, where you're just obsessed with yourselves and your relationship (which there's nothing wrong with...that's descibing me and my FH too!). But the big thing for you guys now is your family and not just your relationship. I would start telling people that instead of a honeymoon, you're doing a "family-moon" or some other fun made up word (maybe the kids could even help you think of something, like putting moon after your last name). This way people will think it's sweet and fun, and they won't have pictures of the traditional honeymoon in their heads. It's your choice and it's all about what makes you guys happy. I can't imagine bringing kids on a honeymoon, but that's only because I don't have any yet! I'm sure it's a great opportunity for your family to take a vacation together, and after the months of planning and attention you're giving to the wedding, it'll be a nice treat to have some family time. Stick to your guns and do what you want. Maybe in 5 years when the kids get older you'll feel more comfortable leaving them and will want to take a "real" honeymoon.