I don't think Trust is the issue. A lot of people who are trustworthy do silly things when caught up in the moment so I can understand your concern. I sat my FH down and had a serious talk (no eye-rolling allowed) about the whole stripper situation. We agreed that we didn't care if the other had a stripper but we put down some serious groundrules.

First, the stripper was to take place at the beginning of the evening for people had a chance to drink too much. Second, the stripper was not to take place at a friends house or hotel room (not as much opportunity for things to go too far). Third, a stripclub was preferred because most establishments have rules about how far it can go.

Set some groundrules and maybe plan for the 2 parties to meet up at the end of the night.