I also wish I could tell the guys NO STRIPPERS! But if my fh tried to tell me what I could and couldn't do at my bachelorette party, I wouldn't be very happy!
I know they are going to get strippers, and I don't really trust the groomsmen. AND my fh tends to get pretty drunk and sloppy. I was so worried for so long! Then we had a serious talk (and some talks with eye-rolling!) and I think we're in a good place now.
I told him I don't care if he gets strippers... I just want him to picture the roles reversed. I said "whatever some nasty stripper is doing at your party, PICTURE ME doing that to some random guy.... if you're ok with that, then you're good. If picturing me doing that stuff to someone else makes you mad, then you shouldn't be in that situation..."
I trust him, if I didn't, I wouldn't be marrying him

my advice: don't spend all your time worrying about the bachelor party... spend your time planning to have fun at your bachelorette party!!!