This is a sticky situation all around... I just got an invite to my friend's wedding, and there was a little slip of paper in there that stated two "wedding requests" This is what it said: Adults only (no children please); that's understandable. But, the 2nd request was: "So and so and so and so are not registered, but are going to have a box set up for donations toward their honeymoon...." I still don't know how I feel about that, but I guess that was a polite way to put it. I think that any time you are asking for $$, it is uncomfortable. Why not just have a money dance? That is what we are going to do. My sis raked in $3,000 from hers. Just a thought. Good luck!