I don't know a polite way to say it. I think the best would be by word of mouth. And I know when I go to a wedding, if the couple has been living together already I just give money because they probably have everything. And I'm sure others would think of this also. I would have only tell my immediete family and close friends that you would prefer money and if anyone ask to please just say we're giving money they already have everything they need. This way it's not sounding rude at all.

For my childrens birthday party [we have double ones] I put on the invite. We don't need presents, we just need you to spend this happy day with us. But if you feel you must get us something, a montrary gift would be great. We both want new big kid beds, and it would help mommy and daddy lots. Everyone actually thought this was cute. So maybe something like that would work, but you'd have to word it differently. LOL. I don't think you and your soon to be would want new big kid beds.

And what is a money dance? Please someone tell me.