Our reception centre holds 200, but our list spills over with distant cousins, and we've decided on an adult-only reception to cut down numbers. However, we'd like a ring-bearer and a flower-girl. Is it proper to invite them to the reception, even though they will be the only kids?

Also, should we send invites to people who are welcome to the ceremony, but not the reception? And should those people be invited to the shower???

We've struggled to get our reception list down to under 200, but there are so many people who we want to include!