I would sit your future hubby down and explain to him what you have told us. Tell him that you understand that his parents have to travel a distance to attend the wedding, but explain to him that you dont think it is fair that your parents should have to pay for everything. Let him know that your parents have spent a great deal of money, and that his parents could contribute to help pay for your wedding. Because after all, he is getting married too, not just you. I had the same problem too, my future husband didnt want to ask his parents to help pay for the wedding, but once I sat him down and explained to him why I felt that his parents should help, he finally asked them to help chip in and they agreed. Give them a few things that they could help pay for, like the caterer, D.J. or band, the reception hall, etc. I'm sure once he see's where you are coming from, he wont be reluctant to ask them to chip in. I hope everything works out for you, and I hope your wedding will be what you have always wanted. Good luck.