I do not want stripper's at my fiance's bachelor...I tolded him this and he justed rolled his eyes..he said he's not planning it, his best man is and his bestman is a horny man..I know it's going to happen.It just scares me..

Heather

If you are getting married you should be able to trust him... But another idea is doing a joint bachlor and bachlorette party, my best friend did it and so are we. The guy's played poker and I threw a passions party for the girls, then we all went out to the bar for drinks after, we had the best time, and we all got to celibrate together.

i agree with meganann, trust is the key ingredient in any relationship, and honey if he wanted to cheat on you he would have already, the stripper is a fun event for both parties, i dont think he minds you having a male stripper at your party does he? they arent allowed to touch them, so no worries there.

I agree with the other ladies. If you are marrying him you should be able to trust him. Generally, the groomsman do this more for themselves than the groom I think. In my situation my FH's groomsman asked him if they could have strippers or go to a strip club and my FH said NO WAY!!! He thinks they silly. I agree but they really aren't a big deal!

I do trust my fiance.I just dont trust the groomsmen and the bestman


Heather

I understand how you feel. One of our groomsman has not been loyal to their wife and I have trouble trustin his friend. You're afraid perhaps they are going to put you FH in a situation due to "man" peer pressure that may cross the line a little to far. Perhaps sitting down and talking to your FH may help. If you sit down and tell him you are uncomfoortable about having strippers at his bachelor party he'll be more understanding. Maybe he rolled his eyes when you brought it up because he thinks the whole idea of the are silly anyways and really doesn't want them there to begin with! Who knows..Personally, I'm against the last night out idea. Good luck to you I hope everything works out for you!

I don't think Trust is the issue. A lot of people who are trustworthy do silly things when caught up in the moment so I can understand your concern. I sat my FH down and had a serious talk (no eye-rolling allowed) about the whole stripper situation. We agreed that we didn't care if the other had a stripper but we put down some serious groundrules.

First, the stripper was to take place at the beginning of the evening for people had a chance to drink too much. Second, the stripper was not to take place at a friends house or hotel room (not as much opportunity for things to go too far). Third, a stripclub was preferred because most establishments have rules about how far it can go.

Set some groundrules and maybe plan for the 2 parties to meet up at the end of the night.

I agree ground rules are important, and I think limiting it to a strip club is a good idea too. But also lets remember stripers are professionals and just because they get naked for money dosent mean they are out to find a man or "get lucky," it may be an exception but not the rule.

I have the same problem and I trust my future hubby too. I told my FH and all of his GM that there will be no stripper at his party and they have made other plans to go out and have a good time elsewhere (bars, casinos, paintballing then bars, ect) . I think that it is a thing of trust, but I think that it should be a thing of respect for you too since you will be his wife soon!!

I also wish I could tell the guys NO STRIPPERS! But if my fh tried to tell me what I could and couldn't do at my bachelorette party, I wouldn't be very happy!
I know they are going to get strippers, and I don't really trust the groomsmen. AND my fh tends to get pretty drunk and sloppy. I was so worried for so long! Then we had a serious talk (and some talks with eye-rolling!) and I think we're in a good place now.
I told him I don't care if he gets strippers... I just want him to picture the roles reversed. I said "whatever some nasty stripper is doing at your party, PICTURE ME doing that to some random guy.... if you're ok with that, then you're good. If picturing me doing that stuff to someone else makes you mad, then you shouldn't be in that situation..."
I trust him, if I didn't, I wouldn't be marrying him

my advice: don't spend all your time worrying about the bachelor party... spend your time planning to have fun at your bachelorette party!!!