Here's my problem I have grown up most of my life without a dad. My real father left when I was a baby. I don't even know him. I have a step father in my life who I would have but my mom says I shouldn't. Because right now they're on the skirts. They're back and fourth basicly. But she said i shouldn't plan on him. But I don't know who to ask then. I have uncles but I'm not even close to them. My ex husband, my daughter's father (it really wasn't a marriage it was to the court house for a rush hush wedding since I was pregnant) well I was talking to his new wife and she said I could have him and my current soon to be says that's a good idea. But I think that'll be very uncomfy and very weird. I'm still debating if I'm inviting them, I was invited to their's and her baby shower, and we're invited to their new daughter's b-day parties. We do this to show our daughter we're all okay. But wouldn't this just be wrong? Honestly, it's weird. But then I have a best friend who is male, but my soon to be really doesn't like him. He says we're too close, even though he has girl friends who are just as close. So I don't want to offend him. My mom agrees that I should have my ex do it. SHe doesn't believe in her walking me down the aisle. She said it must be male. My family is very tradtional when it comes to weddings. So i'm lost. PLease help. I'm ready to just say oh well and not have anyone walk me down the aisle.

That's a toughie. I say whoever you AND your soon-to-be husband feel comfortable with--go for it. You DO NOT want your husband to be upset by using the friend he does not care much for (that's not fair). If you're both comfortable with your ex-husband doing it--go for it! Sounds like he's still very much in your life anyway and it will probably make your child feel comfortable, too, knowing her dad is still a part of your life as well. If you new husband can accept your ex-husband doing it---then he must be a good guy.

I was going to suggest your mom but after you said she thinks it should be a male I would say go along the lines of maybe an uncle or a brother. If you a grandfather still alive maybe one of them too. I'm not close with my dad and I planned on having my 8 year old son to walk me down the aisle and give me away.

I agree with the granfather or uncle, but if you have had the stepdad for a while and are close to him the i would say that he would probably like to do it, bbut it should be how ever you and your soon to be decide together on. have a great time planning.

Hmm... I know for me, I wouldn't want my ex giving me away to my new husband. That would weird me out enough, let alone all the other people who might be bothered by it. But that is a tough one, I would almost rather walk down the aisle by myself as well. I wish your mom was ok with it, I've seen weddings where the mom walked the bride down the aisle. All I know is that I'd be weirded out by my ex walking me down the aisle. Good luck!

Wow this is a toughie. I agree I would be very uncomfortable with my ex-husband walking me down the aisle. If your family is so traditional that your mom won't walk you down the aisle because it should be a man, what will they think if that man is your ex-husband? I agree that I would almost rather walk down the aisle by myself.

Honestly, if it were me, unless you are really close to your step-day or an uncle, I would just walk down the aisle by myself.
Your close friend will make your DH uncomfortable, and just thinking of my ex walking me down the aisle would be kind of like sanding a piece of wood accross the grain. To some people, me included I would be thinking "wow he gave her permission to marry again"...Not An Option! Not trying to offend here, its just my opinion.

What a weird one I can't not beleive that an ex is an option. I would walk alone or have my daughter walk me down the aisle. She would be the only one giving you away now. Don't worry if your mom wants a man she can have your new husband walk her down the aisle if she gets married again. Its her wish not yours you will never make it down the aisle with your ex husband standing next to you.