Ok here's the problem ..... My dad whom I was very close to pasted away 2 years ago and I really don't want someone to walk me if it can't be him!! My mom says this is selfish of me and I should have her boyfriend do it (They have been together for 7 years now he has disliked me since they got together). My grandma says I should ask my grandpa to do it. My Aunt (my dad's sister) says it should be her that I ask becauseshe's thenext"in line" My mom wont do it I asked her DO I HAVE TO HAVE ANYONE WALK ME DOWN THE AISLE????

We recommend going with what your heart feels. Have you considered putting your rationale or a description inside your programs? You might say something to this effect:

In memory of [your dad], the bride will not be accompanied as she walks down the aisle for the first time, and have reserved a place of honor for him throughout the wedding.

If you wish, you could reserve a spot inside the hall, or at the reception as well. This is your wedding day, and we feel that while manners and decorum are no doubt, important, it is also important to consider your own feelings and comfort level with respect to symbols within the ceremony.

I am so sorry that you are being stressed out additionally to the normal wedding stress. If it were me, I would absolutely not have my mom's boyfriend walk me down the aisle-- mostly because you actually feel that he doesn't like you. Just remember--- this day is a very special just for you and your fiance.Really... what anyone else thinks is 100% irrelevant. It's nice to try and make people happy but not at your expense. We're not real traditional people so I say go for it and walk down the aisle yourself. Again, if it were me, I'd chose someone very special to me like a great male friend or a male family member that has always been there for you. If that happens to be your aunt or another girl then go for it but I don't think you need to have 'the next in line' walk you down or your mom's boyfriend. Do what you want and forget what everyone tells you you should do! Good luck!

Andrea

That is terrible that you have to go through this. I would definately NOT have my mom's boyfriend walk down the isle. He has no reason to "offer" you to your husband. THat's just ridiculous and sad that your mother wants that. I loved the previous thread about the verse. I would have either Grandpa walk you down if you have a special bond or not have anyone walk you down at all. Perhaps having a candle lit in your fathers honor as part of the ceremony? Good luck -- thats a tough one but it's your decision, your wedding, your special day.

I'm in favor of walking by yourself and I like the idea of of putting that in the invite. I don't think you should have to have someone walk you down the isle. but if you do want someone to I would choose someone you think your dad would want to walk you down the isle. And like everyone else NOT your mom's boyfriend. And i would tell your mom that it is insensitive of her to try to make you have someone that doesn't even like you walk you down the isle.

I would personally favor walking down the aisle by yourself...maybe your groom could walk half way down the aisle to meet you.
There is no reason for your mothers boyfriend(whom there is obviously issue's with) walk you down the aisle.
I'm sorry the people in your life have taken it upon themselves to add to you stress...Wish you well.