I was just wondering what people's thoughts/suggestions were on this:

My mom offered to throw us an engagement party. We weren't even thinking of having one. Well, I spoke with her on the phone tonight. I guess my sis asked her (I know, none of her biz) who was paying for it. My mom told me that she told her, "We haven't discussed it, but I 'might' pitch in a little for it. Other than that, I think they are." Well, a few tears of regret later, and I have to tell my mom we cannot have it. This is a tough time of year for us, and we were under the impression that we were having a party thrown for us, not that we were throwing it for ourselves!! Not anymore. I looked up the etiquette on this one, and it said that the parents of the bride were to throw the party. And, if they didn't want to , that whoever else (i.e. groom's fam, sis, etc.) could throw it. What would you gals do? Thanks in advance!!

Cheer Up Girl!! Don't let a moment of planning your joyous event bring you to tears. I would just explain to mom that while you appreciate her idea for an engagment party, you and Mr. Lewis would prefer to spend YOUR money on other areas of the wedding. I would also make sure that she knows that the miscommunication upset you and suggest that in the future all things wedding are discussed and agreed upon upfront to avoid miscommunication and hurt feelings.

Best Wishes for Smooth Sailing with the rest of your wedding plans.

Future Mrs. Kleine

Future Mrs. Klein:

Thank you so much for your input! You are right. I am totally wasting my energy and joy on this subject. I appreciate your help!