I am hoping I can get some advice on this topic. I have 2 really good friends from college that I had to choose between to be my maid of honor. I decided to go with my friend who I can always depend on and is just a truely good friend no matter what. And since graduation she has been the one I have remained the closest with. Also helping the decision was that my other friend moved to Arizona so all the maid of honor duties would be harder for her. Anyway, I went ahead and asked my friend that I am closer with to be my maid of honor and she said yes. My other friend saw it through a website and finally confronted me about it. She was upset that I didn't tell her about it. I'm not sure what to think, I felt it would be sort of a slap in the face if I called one day just to tell her she wasn't going to be my maid of honor. Our friendship isn't ruined or anything, but I just want some opinions and advice on how you would have handled the situation. Did I do the right thing? Should I have called her to tell her who I had chosen? Any advice on this matter will be much appreciated!

Well hurt feelings are the worst it is always easier when they are just mad. If you explain to her why you chose the other friend just like you explained it to us it should be fine. Also to soften the blow make her a special part of your wedding and try to remember to include her the planning process. Good Luck

Can I make a suggestion for people who will be facing this in the future? Don't put labels on your attendants. Include them both and call them friends of honor. A maid of honor and/or matron of honor are very old terms. There is not wedding law book that says you have to use them.

Thank you both for you advice. I did explain to her exactly as I explained to you guys, and she is OK now.. But I guess she was just hurt because she was expecting she would be the one I asked. And she is helping whenever I can, giving me advice and offering to make phone calls with me. She is even here next week to look at dresses and just help me plan!