I asked my BFF to be my MOH and now I regret that decision. She is planning her own wedding and has not been much of a friend lately and I'm wondering...can I have a different MOH or am I stuck? And the biggest part of the reason that I am contemplating this is mainly because she has just not been a good friend lately and I'm feeling neglected by her (ie: she will call me to complain about her fiancé and I’ll listen patiently and offer advise but when I call to tell her my wedding maybe off, she is more concerned with a car that has wrecked and is off the side of the road…I mean, what is more important???). Or, am I being a baby?

Sounds like you are in a little bit of a jam. There are a few different things you could do to resolve the problem. One would be to have someone replace her. This can be a delicate conversation to have. If she is beginning to plan her own wedding, you could simply say, "[Friends name], I don't want your being in my wedding to be a burden or to interfere with you planning your special day. If it's too much for you right now, I can ask someone else. I still want you to be apart of my special day...(offer a smaller part to her potentially)." She may be seriously stressing out about trying to (from her perspective) plan two weddings. Her mentioning a car wreck and acting distant might be her trying to hint at this. Replacing her might actually be a relief for her.

Another route would be to add another Maid or Matron of Honor. This would be someone you can count on to take on the duties tied to this position.

Either way, approach your friend with respect and let them in on what you're thinking. This person is someone you believed to be one of your closest confidants. Every relationship has it's bumps. The key to getting through them is communication.

Good luck!

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I would try to talk to her about it. JUst like bunchobrides said. I think that would be the best way. My moh is also planning her wedding and I'm her moh. So we're having lots of fun doing this together. So maybe you could do it that way. Say hey why don't we do this together. We tried doing her's one day and mine another day but with 4 kids between us it was hard, so we decided hey on the days we're together it'll be both weddings. I mean you can always replace her or ask her if theres a way you's can do this together that'll make it less stressful for both of you.