Hi! I am a newbie to the board. I am getting Married on 08/16/08. We have been engaged since November and I have almost everything planned. But I have a question/vent.

So, I have this Aunt who likes to compete about everything. I mean she always has to be better and her kids always have to better. It is my dad's brothers wife. My mom doesn't really care for her and get's really annoyed at how she is always trying to compete. For example when my brother and sister in law got married my cousin found out that she was wearing almost the same dress as my sister in law. Well, our bridesmaid dress had the same sort of bunching as my sister in laws dress. My Aunt said to my mom when Alyssa get's married we won't have dresses like that because they out shine the bride. We were like whatever! My sister in law definitly stood out as the bride and was beautiful. ANYWAY... this is way of topic.

Today I got an email from my Aunt and she was asking what our wedding colors are because she wants to buy a dress and she doesn't want to clash. I don't know why she would think that she is going to clash. I mean everyone wears different things to a wedding. I guess she was being considerate by asking but I am not sure. So, I told her our colors are champange, dark pink and sage green. I didn't tell her anymore then that. And she emailed me back ok now I know what I am looking for and it wil lbe interesting to see those colors together. WHen I read that it really kind of bothered me. I am not sure why and maybe I am just being senstive. What do you guys think? I don't really know what it would matter what my wedding colors are so that she can buy a dress. I am probably being way senstive. And I don't want her to wear champagne because that is the color of the bridesmaid dresses and I don't want her to wear green because my mom is wearing green and so is Max's mom. I really don't think that she should wear those colors because she is not part of the wedding party. The only realy pink is in the flowers. I am having dark pink roses for the bouquets and centerpieces.

Sorry for the long message. I guess I just needed to get it out because some reason that really bothered me. Thanks!

Thats okay, we are here for venting. It does sound like your Aunt has some sort of attitude problem. Honestly, I would just not ever worry about it. I know that's hard to do, but just leave it be. I think pink and green are lovely together and from your other posts, it sounds like it is going to be a beautiful wedding. We are having pink, black, and white for our colors and my FSIL and FMIL had to comment on the pink right away. I just remind myself, it's our wedding, not theirs. As long as my FH and I are okay with it, I really could care less what they think. I want them to like it, but I'm not going to change my colors just because they don't like pink very much.

Well first don’t care about the email, I would be upset too but after all the stuff that has upset me throw my wedding,(lots of bridesmaids issues, FML from hell, and money) I have learned you are going to give yourself an ulcer.

I love the color idea it sound gorgeous and I am envious of anyone using pink my FH nix that color right away. If you don’t pay attention to your aunt the competition will become boring and she will move on,
Good Luck and Breathe

Thanks a lot... I think I needed a reality check! I really apperciate it!

gurl, just keep ur head up alright. its okay to vent hehe thats what were here for. hehe

ohhhhhhh...I so think you should have told her your colors were black and white! She would have a hard time upstaging the wedding party then. And she won't clash either

You already have too much to plan and worry for your wedding - you shouldn't care too much about her comment. Afterall, who will notice her at YOUR wedding? :>

-- Matthew
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