does it matter if one is kind of a tom-boy, and wants her hair down?? or should i ask her to wear it up, or however the other girls do theirs,to be alike??

I think it looks really pretty if all of the bridesmaids can do what fits their personalities best, and their face shapes. Since every face shape, hair texture, etc. is different, it is extremely difficult for everyone to try to wear the same style and make it look good. I think it still looks symmetrical and pretty to let them all do it their own way. [within reason, of course]

lol thanks alot for the advice, your both right!!

I agree.. whatever the bridesmaids want is best, that way you know it fits them and they are happy...( and i agree that it should be within reason).

I think it is important that the bridesmaid's feel comfortable with how their hair is styled, but the bride may want something special for them to wear in their hair and that can be adjusted for.

I told all my girls that I'd like for their hair to be up, but that is the only direction I am giving them....

I would like all my girls to have their hair similar, but not the same. I will probably ask them to have it all up or half up, half down. Other than that, I like the idea of having something similar for them to put in their hair like a pin or barrett.

Same here, since I think we are going with tube tops I think an "up-do" would compliment the neck line.

I know a girl who's MOH came out of the closet near the time of the wedding. She cut her hair boy style and insisted on wearing a tux. It looked great! Certain people were scandalized, but the bride wasn't about to make her friend do something that wasn't "her"