i have a close group of friends that can get a great deal on a time share in Mexico. My fiance and I think it would be fun to make it a "group honeymoon" and have several of our friends come with. it would make the vacation cheaper, and also allows us to have friends there to go out with. We figured we'd make sure we'd get plenty "alone time" and if we wanted a vacation later on with just the two of us, we could go someplace closer to home and just get a hotel or cabin. Does this idea seem wierd to anyone? Should we just spend the extra money and go by ourselves? Has anyone had friends on their honeymoon with them?

I think a lot of people who have destination weddings end up spending the days after their wedding w/ their friends and families similar to this. A couple of people I know did this and one liked it and the other hated it. I guess it kind of depends on how well you get along w/ the people you'll be with. The one who hated it was really sick of her friends by then and was afraid to ask for more alone time because their friends were getting really whiny about not hanging out "as a group." I'd also guess that if they're not married themselves, they won't understand the significance of this particular vacation for you. I mean, if they're thinking it'll be a "spring break" type partying vacation, I'd definitely advise you to spend the extra money and go on a honeymoon by yourselves. But if it's other couples who will respect your privacy and understand that you want your own room with lots of "private" time both in the hotel and around the area, then it might be a great way to save money.

I agree with jaxter, you need to think about 2 things; 1. How YOU want to spend your honeymoon (how much time alone, and/or with friends)and 2.your friends and who they are, married, single,etc... and how they would handle the time. Would they be comfortable being without you, while you have your alone time? or would they want to be as a group most of the time? Would their plans align with what YOU or your fiance want your honeymoon to be? I have a close group of friends who are going to spend the wedding weekend ( fri-Sun)with us BEFORE the honeymoon, so we will have plenty of time together with them and then leave for our honeymoon on Monday for our own time alone
So we hope this will make for the best fo both worlds!

I agree with Jaxter, it just depends on your set of friends. Vacations with friends can bring out sides of them you never knew existed before, just be warned (yes, personal experience talking here!) Make your intentions and itinerary clear from the get-go about when it's 'together' time and 'alone' time--that will help a lot to ease expectations and ideas they might get in their heads.
Considering where you live (I *heart* MT!), a separate vacation for just the two of you later nearby in a cabin or whatever sounds mega-romantic IMHO--maybe you could do that for a ___-month anniversary/honeymoon celebration? If you do that route, make sure you get those plans in place solidly in addition to the honeymoon; otherwise, you may just keep 'not getting around' to it or fidning that you didn't set aside enough money (so it will have to wait over a year or six or whatever). Best of luck for whatever you choose!

Hmmmm!!


Friends! Lol. Well, if they really want to come, you can't just stop them. Lol. But I guess they would have to pay for their own trip. Cmon, youve spent a lot for the wedding already... :-) And tell it to them nicely. Lol.



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