Hi everyone! I really need some advice. My Fiance and I have been living together for 8 years. We are getting married this October. Since we have lived together for so many years we have all of the necessities that we need. Next year we will be trying to have a baby but unfortunately we have to do InVitro (IVF) which will cost us $25,000.00 In additon we are paying for our wedding completely by ourselves. How would we word it on the invitation that money would be appreciated instead of gifts (without sounding tacky). This would help us out a little with our baby planning next year. We are having an intimate wedding with family and close friends only. Thanks for any suggestions!
Tammy

If you are only haveing close friends and family, I would spred it by word of mouth, I know many times people will want to get you a little something to open anyway. Also they have ideas at VerseThis.com - invitation wording and verses.

Thank you for the suggestions! The website is great!

Hi, Tammy. I am new to this site, but I saw your thread and just had to join so that I could reply to you. First of all congratulations on your upcoming marriage and your plans to have a baby. I don't know if you have heard of TheBigDay.Com, but it is a non-traditional type of bridal registry. It is mainly for your honeymoon, but you can register for just about anything you want. You should check it out to see if it is something that you could you use.

What ever you do, please do not include any registry information with your invitations. It will be tacky no matter how you word it. TheBigDay has announcement cards for your registry that you can use to include with your SHOWER invitations.

I hope this helps a little bit and again, congratulations.

Thanks,
Brenda1978.

Brenda, I really appreciate your help. That website is just what I needed. It is great! Thank you and take care.
Tammy

You're welcome, Tammy. I just want to spread the word.

Thanks,
Brenda.

I have two different friends that are getting married this summer. They have both lived together for years and here's what they did.

One put a note in with the invitation that said "Because at first we lived in sin, we've got the sheets and the rubbish bin. Gifts would be swell, but we'd prefer a donation, to our wishing well."

My other friend put a note in with her reception information and she said, "Your presence at our wedding is the most meaningful gift you could give us. However, if you would like to contribute to our life together, please drop a small token into our wishing well along with a secret wish for us." That way people don't feel required to do so, and they don't feel as though they have to give a certain amount because you'll know what they gave you.

Anyways, there's a few more ideas for you.
Lisa