I want to make my own invitations, we have everything that we are going to need for our home, because ive been buying here and there and putting it away for our hope chest
what im wondering is.... is there a way that i could word it that says that we have everything we need and that if you want to give anything you can give cash. Without saying it that way?

This is a common question these days. Tradition states that this is a big No-No. But with the way weddings and etiquette have evolved over the last 20 years, and that living together before you're married is becoming more common-place, this may soon shake it's taboo status. Several years ago, including your registry information was even considered rude...but has become almost a standard addition. Here's a search that may give you some ideas on the subject: Invitation wording cash.

Most experts suggest using word of mouth to spread this information. Let your immediate family and bridal party members know that if they are asked by anyone where you and your fiance are registered, or gift suggestions, that money is your gift of choice.

If you do decide on including it on/in your invitation, here's a few suggestions for how to include it.

• Down play it. Make it as subtle as possible. Something like: Monetary Gifts Appreciated/Welcome.

• Make a joke out of it. Use a poem:
  
  Because at first we lived in sin
  We've got the sheets and a rubbish bin
  A gift from you would be swell
  But we'd prefer a donation to our Wishing Well!!
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  Word of Caution: Make sure your guests are the type of people who will view this as funny and not insulting.

Hopefully this has given you some ideas of how to get the word out, but still be tactful.

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A church filled with family and friends.
I asked him what kind of a wedding he wished for,
He said one that would make me his wife.
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I hate to tell you, but there really isn't a polite way to word this. If it were me, I'd spread the word through family and friends.

This is a sticky situation all around... I just got an invite to my friend's wedding, and there was a little slip of paper in there that stated two "wedding requests" This is what it said: Adults only (no children please); that's understandable. But, the 2nd request was: "So and so and so and so are not registered, but are going to have a box set up for donations toward their honeymoon...." I still don't know how I feel about that, but I guess that was a polite way to put it. I think that any time you are asking for $$, it is uncomfortable. Why not just have a money dance? That is what we are going to do. My sis raked in $3,000 from hers. Just a thought. Good luck!

I don't know a polite way to say it. I think the best would be by word of mouth. And I know when I go to a wedding, if the couple has been living together already I just give money because they probably have everything. And I'm sure others would think of this also. I would have only tell my immediete family and close friends that you would prefer money and if anyone ask to please just say we're giving money they already have everything they need. This way it's not sounding rude at all.

For my childrens birthday party [we have double ones] I put on the invite. We don't need presents, we just need you to spend this happy day with us. But if you feel you must get us something, a montrary gift would be great. We both want new big kid beds, and it would help mommy and daddy lots. Everyone actually thought this was cute. So maybe something like that would work, but you'd have to word it differently. LOL. I don't think you and your soon to be would want new big kid beds.

And what is a money dance? Please someone tell me.

I believe some online registrys like MyRegistry.com - All Stores One Registry allows a couple to register for money only. So, I guess that would always be an option.

In reference to the above mentioned "money dance", I believe she is talking about the dollar dance. If it is something different, please let me know as well.

Yea Kristine is right. It is weird to just straight out ask for cash. I actually set my registry with MyRegistry.com and on my gift list I have some gifts on there as well as the option for my guests to contribute cash using the Cash Gift Service they provide . So far so good!!! I have had a really pleasant experience with them.

Party invitations are the first thing your guests will see and will either motivate them in a right way. The invitations and if you want to save the bulk of your shower budget for the party itself, you need to find discount.