I'm pretty sure I know the answer to this so maybe it's just my time to vent but we're getting married in 7 mo and just sent out our save the dates. We are paying $175 pp plus a tremendous venue fee. My dad is giving us maybe half the money and we're taking second and third mortgages to pay the rest. I asked my dad if we were leaving anyone out as we're strictly inviting just family, our friends and that's basically it. I told my dad we are inviting 1 or 2 family friends that I literally grew up with. I asked my mom the same question and was told she wants to invite a girl she works with and her husband. I have never ever met this woman in the 6 mo she knows my mom and she seriously couldn't pick me out of a line up of 2 people. I tried telling her that we cannot afford to invite them but she's getting mad that none of her friends will be there and she wants her friends there. She ignored when I asked her to invite family friends I grew up with so I'm at least more comfortable paying $350 extra. My mom isn't chipping in and knows how tight it's going to be so I think it's 100% ridiculous. She asked the lady today for her address so I'm sure she told her she's invited. My mom just has a habit of not thinking things through and just doing things to make everyone else happy regardless of messing up others. It's just making me be in a bad mood bc I know it's going to be a fight....

I would tell her that if it is so important to her that she should pay their per person fee, and if she isnt willing to even chip in that much that you will not be inviting them. Dont feel guilty at all just lay down the law. Good luck!

I'm sure she'd pay for them but knowing she has no money and has known this lady for like 6 mo and probably never even met her husband-- it just seems ridiculous to invite them. I think it may even be the fact of how random these people seem more than the $350!

I agree... maybe if you say, ok fine you pay for them then... it'll help her realize that it's not fair to make you guys pay for someone you don't even know. it's not like you're inviting a bunch of random people you've known only a few months, why should she.... it's not HER wedding!

I'm going to have to deal with something like this as well. my mom has a "BFF" and they have been friends for a year or two now, and I have been around her a few times... but she's VERY overwhelming and obnoxious, ESPECIALLY when there is alcohol involved... and I can seriously envision her taking over the entire reception and getting on everyone's nerves (she CRAVES attention even if it means picking fights with people and embarrassing herself and others). anyway, it's my mom's best friend and I'm sure they sit around talking about our wedding plans... so I feel like I HAVE to invite her... but I'd really rather not, and I am not sure how we could go about telling her... you can come but you have to be quiet and behave yourself... or better yet, DON'T DRINK!

anyway... sorry to tell my story in your thread. but I do think you have every right to refuse to invite these "friends" of your mother.

Hi!

Thanks for the post. I actually changed my mind on this. My mom did me a HUGE favor last week so I caved and told her that her friends could come and she is completely ecstatic. So now I figure what's 2 people I don't know out of 150? No big deal if it makes her happy. It's never an easy decision so good luck with yours!

Andrea

I agree with ya Andrea.. for all our parents do for us now, and when we all grew up... its the least we can do....That was nice of you!