I am really not trying to sound petty, or negative here....but, I really do need to vent a little.

Without question and no exaggeration, while my sis was engaged last year the whole 8 months that she was, ALL I heard about EVERY conversation was: "My wedding this, the wedding that, our decorations this, blah, bah, blah...." She truly was the epitome of "Bridezilla." I think she actually may have been the worst bride I have ever met. I was repeatedly told by her that I was terrible MOH, I wasn't "happy enough for her," I was not "capable" of handling being a MOH, etc. She even sent me emails on how to be a great MOH. Hello?! Alittle over-the-top and rude, right? This is only a glimpse of what she put me through, no joke.

Anyway, we were all SO RELIEVED when she got married cuz' we didn't have to constantly hear about it anymore. Well, this is my problem: She never asks me about the wedding. And, if we do "mention" it, all I hear about is HER wedding and what SHE did. Am I being over the top with this? She had her day...she actually had EIGHT long months of her day in all of our faces.... How can I politley tell her that I would appreciate more participation and conversation about our happy day, being she is MOH, and LESS talk about HER (now over a year past) wedding? Thanks in advance!

You should sit down and talk with her and make sure she really wants to be your MOH, maybe she feels obligated because you were her's. Just let her know you need her support, and if she cant do that maybe you should reconsider your MOH choice.

I agree with Megan Ann. Her wedding is over and done with so she should be focusing on yours. It's fine if she can offer some suggestions as to what worked best for her wedding but you are the bride now, not her. Maybe you should send her some of those emails on how to be a good MOH!!!

Thank you ladies for your advice! I will give it a try . Yes, maybe I should mail her some of those MOH duties! ;-)

I just wanted to say that I agree with the other ladies!!

I had a similar experience with a wedding I was a BM in. I did everything I could to make it all about her. Spent a ton of money for her wedding, threw her a fancy shower, and was truely happy for her. Well, my FH proposed 3 weeks prior to her wedding and she thought I would have upstaged her or something by it. Anyhow, to make a long story short I am convinced that sometimes you can't get the bridezilla out of the bride even after they are married!!

I really hope your sister is nothing like my former friend. I hope everything works out for you!

Gosh, it really hurts when you are there for someone else and they're not there for you doesn't it? Ouch, I feel for you; it would take everything in me not to just smack her if I were you lol.

When I was wedding-planning, I feel like I really didn't get much help. When my SIL got engaged, I really jumped in. They didn't do a rehearsal or anything and there was no wedding party. So when the big day came she didn't know how to go down the aisle, what to do for the "giving of the bride" no one to hold her bouquet or fix her train. I did all of that for her and went to the hair salon with her and everything. Not only that, but I was her florist. At my wedding, she and her mom went to a totally different salon than me, my mom, and the other bridesmaids and that really, really hurt my feelings. I'm over it now, I love my "sister" (we don't even use the term in-law). What bothers me now is that everything her family, her mom, dad, the cousins talk about is her wedding, her dress, how wonderful this and that was blah blah...and I never hear anything about how nice mine was or how memorable something at my wedding was and it bothers me.

I pick and choose my battles, so honestly, I would either confront her and risk making her mad or get over it and ignore her and find someone else to be the MOH or at least do the MOH duties for you.

Thanks for your advice! I haven't been on in awhile. My sis is still up to no good. I have an alternate plan. Hopefully, it works. If not, I am going to take the ignoring her suggestion because my life is too hectic to worry about arguing with her. She is self centered, always has been, always will be. I would just be wasting my breath on her. I am sorry to hear about your sister's behavior. Congrats on your marriage!

Well, you can't fire her, if that is what you asking. You knew she was a problem drama queen before, why was she asked to be in your wedding? You will just have to have a heart to heart talk with her.