I just don't know if I should invite my dad to my wedding... He and his side of the family ruined my sister's wedding with rude, loud behavior. My mom thinks I should invite him (they're divorced), but my fiance doesn't. Help!

You should invite your dad.

He is dad after all.

i agree, you should invite you dad, but i feel your pain. my dad gets ridiculous when he drinks a lot and it is totally embarassing. most of my friends and family know he is like this and i know they will be understanding. hopefully it will be the same for you. good luck!

My step dad can get really obnoxious when he's had a few too many too! So I'm putting him to work in the kitchen...he's cooking all the meat for our reception. Hopefully this'll keep him busy enough to not start celebrating until after the meal. Plus it saves us some money and gets more people involved. He was very flattered when I asked him!

Talk to your dad about your concerns. He should be invited. Your guests will remember how happy you were, not obnoxious guests.

There is no way that you should not invite your father.
Thimk of it this way, there are going to be alot of eyes on him, and alot of people talking to him that he isnt going to be able to drink as much till the very end. And then, that doesnt matter.
I have the same problem but its my mother in law, she hasnt come to reality that my father in law got re-married. they have been seperated for over 24 years and she has been with a new guy for 13. She does drink alot and doesnt relalize what she is saying till after, I got my finace to talk to her and tell her to tone it down, and we also talked and agreeded that if it gets to bad, that someone will ask her to leave. Its rude, but we spoke about it already.
And if that doesnt work, shoot up the prices of his drinks, too expencive to drink, then he wont drink alot.

I have that problem too. My step mom keeps telling me things that my dad doesn't seem to know anything about. I told him some of what she said and he said that he didn't know. But it frustrates me because i don't talk to him alot, beacuse he has to work weird hours and acorrding to her it is all my fault, everything even things taht ny mom did to my dad when i was to little to make my own decisions about anyting. I thought about inviting him but not having him walk with me but that would be harsh and would start more stuff and i am sick of all the stuff. My parents have been divorced for 25 years mom has been remarried for almost 25 years and dad has been remarried for close to 20 so i think they should get over wahtever is their problems with each other and just be happy.

If your dad gets that way by drinking too much, talk to the bartender! Perhaps you could ask him/her to put very little alcohol in his drinks. Or, assign someone to keep an eye on him and distract him to keep him from drinking too much. But you should really think long and hard before not inviting your own father... talk to him about his behavior at your sisters wedding and tell him how much it would hurt you if he acted that way at yours. Not inviting him could cost you the entire relationship, while inviting him might just mean a bit more work and effort... and remind yourself that you shouldn't be embarrassed, you're not the one acting that way!

jelysc613 makes a good point, remember your wedding is one day but your relationship with your dad is forever.

ok, so I'm the black sheep here. I say do whatever your gut tells you to do.

My parents are divorced and I only see my real father maybe 1 time a year. I have a WONDERFUL stepdad and decided long before my engagement that my stepdad would be the one to give me away. My real father is an alcoholic and has caused nothing but pain in my life so I cut him out which didn't go over very well with some of the family. A daughter should be able to trust her father to make her wedding the most Beautiful day of her life. You have enough stess with wedding planning and you shouldn't have to worry about your father's behavior.

I did send my real father an invitation but both my Maid of Honor (sister) and the Best Man have strict orders to escort any unruly family members out the door. I also limited the amount of alcohol being served at the wedding.

I hope you have a WONDERFUL day and that everyone will understand that you deserve it and that they should save their issues for another day.