I am curious what advice others can give to me about handling the wedding planning, and beginning a new life with my husband and his friends. The issue is that there is a girl who had been a friend of mine for a short period of time, although we have a shared family connection and have known each other for years, who is also an ex of my fiance and remains very good friends with my husband to be. I did ask her to be in my wedding party since she is his best friend, (next to me of course,) a distant friend of mine, and the reason we met.But does she get invited to my bachelorette party? Or his bachelor party or both?

I am uncomfortable with their relationship, but keep being told by him and others who know both, that it should not be a problem that they are ex's who remain great friends becuase she has discovered that she is gay. Help anyone? any advice?

it was very big of you to invite the ex gf to be a part of your wedding party. i don't know if i could have done it. but since she is in the wedding, it seems like she should also be invited to the bachelorette party? maybe she will decide not to come, but at least you will have made the gesture. i personally don't think she needs to be invited to the bachelor party. she may be gay, but she is not a BOY! bachelor parties are for the boys.

Traditionally, the bachelorette party is planned by your closest gal pals. If you trust their judgement regarding the situation, then be okay with their decision of whether or not to invite her. If you want to keep a closer eye on things, consider doing a dual bachelor/bachelorette party. They can be double the fun.

Above all...he didn't pick her (although it sounds like she would of said no now ), he picked you. Don't lose sight of that. With all the hoopla and craziness that comes from wedding planning, it can get easy to miss that.

Find a night this next week to just spend some time together with him and remember how you met...your first kiss...and when you first hoped he'd ask for your hand.

Good luck!

I agree she is NOT a boy no matter her sexual preference. I have an ex of his in the picture too but her and I became good friends when I moved down here. He did tell me that he was trying to get back together with her just before him and I started dating and her and I kind of look a like so it was hard at first. If you aren't comfortable with her but felt that she should be in the wedding. You don't HAVE to invite her to other events it is after all your wedding and your parties. Do what you want and don't feel bad for not inviting her.

totally agree with you!!!!