My mom and I have always been so close, but lately she starts fights over everything, and then blames me. My wedding is less that 2 moths away (May 25) and I would really like my mother by my side throughout the rest of the planning and everything, but I can't keep putting myself into these stressful situations.
She has been against my FH and I getting married since day one, and now just keeps jabbing away at everything. If my fiance and I have one little fight, she goes, maybe you should call off the wedding, or, can you really see yourself with this guy for the rest of your life? It is so frustrating.
Our most recent fight, she told me that she was done helping me plan my wedding (which is fine w/ me b/c i didn't want her help in the first place) and as far as she was concerned my wedding was off (which she later DENIED)!
I am to the point where I am going to tell her next time I speak with her that if she is going to keep picking these fights and talking badly about my future hubby, that she can just not come to the wedding, BUT that if she chooses to continue fighting and not come to the wedding, that she canc conscider herself out of my life for the rest of hers, and that includes and future grandchildren. Maybe that will finally get her to realize just how much her words hurt me.
I just don't know, I almost wish that we had eloped like we had talked about at one point, but the more we talked about it, the more reluctant he became, so that its not even an option now.

I wish I had advise for you, but I am in the EXACT situation! My mother is against our wedding as well. She doesn't like my FH, which is fine by me, because she doesn't have to live with or love him. All I can tell you is STAY STRONG! And remember that it's your wedding and you don't need any extra stress!

I'm sorry to hear that your mother is acting the way that she is. You just need to sit down with her and try to explain to her that what she's doing or rather what she's acting like is really hurting and upsetting you and that you'd really like her to be apart of this wonderful occasion but if she can't get over what's bothering her with your FH or whatever it is then also explain to her that she won't be apart of your life or her future grandchildrens' lives because you don't want to put your future family in any "war zones" so to speak after you get married. I think she just needs to accept the fact that you are getting married and that there's nothing she can do about it. Hope my input helps in some small way and have a great time with your wedding planning!

Hmmm...


So is this a fight of trivial things, or is it a fight grounded from nowhere...


Maybe your mom is just so anxious about your getting married and losing you, and expressing it into things such as petty fights and stuff, since you say you have been really close.


Try to talk to her.





________________________
A dad never loses a daughter during her wedding Day, he just gains a son.