Okay so who dances first? New wife and hubby? Father daughter? Mother son? I have to have to daddy daughter dances one for dad and one for step dad, but what is the order supposed to be??

i think it's wife and hubby first, but I'm not sure.

In my experience attending weddings, I've always seen it done..

Bride/Groom
Bride/Father
Groom/Mother
Bridal Party
Dollar Dance

You might consider having 1 song for the dads and just switching partners halfway through the song.

I have also seen the mother/son father/daughter done first and then the father "giving" the daughter to the groom for their first dance.

That's a good idea. I'll have to remember that one.