I agree, one less thing to pay for and one less decision to make, I would love it!!! But also that dosent mean that you cant try to compromise for more of what you want.

Have your fiance talk to his mom about some places that you'd like to do. Ultimately, I say go with the flow for a smooth after wedding life.

Hello:

I know that my reply may be a bit late. As a Wedding Planner, I think that it is your event. And, she should let you make the decisions. However if where you chose is over her antiscipated budget, you all should discuss and come to some common ground.

She keeping that event for you is a gift. And I do not see why she should choose where she wants it to be held - well of course if it a surprise. But, it seem not- you are involved. The way I see it is like giving you a gift and telling you where and when to use it. All I can say is look at the good things about it and make that your focus. Go out there and have a good time - Beautiful Bride. That is why event planners are important. You do not run into these problems. We handle it for you.

Kendi

I agree with the person above me completely.


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I have been a bride twice and the rehearsal dinner location never phased me either time...actually we didnt have one the 2nd...as it was a destination wedding. Wasn't much choice on the location. It didn't matter we had a great time.

I think more than the who's paying for it..something needs to be said for feasiblilty of the person taking on the task. I am the mother of the groom now. If I am doing the cooking, I want the the resources at my disposal. I don't want to be cooking in an unfamiliar kitchen. Or trying to haul food 20 miles if I can do it just down the street. If we choose a resturant, I want something nice, but affordable. I'm not saying I wouldn't ask my son and FDIL what they would like, cause I probably will...

Also, many times friends and family offer to help with the food and preparations. If someone offered to help me with the dinner, I am certainly going to invite them to stay.

Remember, especially when having a home meal, that there is alot of clean up to a rehearsal dinner, and with a wedding the next day...there's not much time to put the home back in order.

Another angle to consider...The wedding is primarily the bride and brides family's show...The rehearsal is the grooms family's time to shine, so to speak. I agree with an earlier post...just sit back and enjoy it, its one less thing you have to worry about.

Just my thoughts, from both perspectives and being both a recent bride and a MOG.

Wow...this must have been a good thread considering it probably outlived the single life of the person who posted it...lol She hasn't posted in almost a year...but it makes for good conversation.

Agreed. We currently have no rehearsal dinner.

Be glad that she is planning it! My mother-in-law & I got into an argument last thanksgiving and we haven't spoken since. Nothing is more stressful than planning your own wedding and knowing the mother-in-law will just never have peace with you. ahh the greatfulness of having in-laws :-p It looks like I might have to plan the rehersal dinner or there won't be one!

lol how about this...the mother in law hates where we're having the wedding...and also now hates me...when a few months ago when she thought i was getting married where she wanted...wanted us to pop a few grandkids out for her...now i'm the "daughter in law from hell"...we're too immature for a wedding and she's not coming to the wedding because she will "feel just like everyone else...she wants to feel like more than a guest"...and she won't give me my dress that's at her house...how's that for a "happy ending" the woman is a nutbag...what should i do

I hate to sound like bridezilla....because I most certainly am not that at all! My in-laws and I have always gotten along great and planning this weddnig has not made it any different.

YOU ARE THE BRIDE! This is YOUR day! If you simply hate the place they have picked out, talk to them about it.

Now, if your place is too pricey and that's why they have swayed from it, then you HAVE to understand their point of view. However, I do feel that you should be able to have that conversation with them.